UTAH TECH UNIVERSITY'S STUDENT NEWS SOURCE | January 20, 2025

Golf teams poised, prepared

The Dixie State University golf team members are the group that can swing with form and precision.

Both the men’s and the women’s golf teams played during fall semester in September and October, but the second half of the season begins Monday.

Men

The first tournament of the year will be hosted by Southern Utah University.

“I’m looking forward to really seeing how much the guys have improved over last year,” head coach Brad Sutterfield said. “We have really good chemistry. I’m looking forward to getting after it and seeing what happens.”

The men will play their lone tournament held in St. George at Sunbrook Golf Course.

“We only get one home event each year,” Sutterfield said. “It’s nice to stay home. (We) get our home course and surroundings.”

This tournament is also a chance for DSU to show the Division I programs where it stands.

“It’s a home course where we can really do well at,” said Skylar Schone, a sophomore accounting major from Washington. “It’s (also) a D-1 tournament.”

College golf is a team sport instead of an individual game.

To win, the teams will add the four lowest individual scores on the team to crown a winning team.

Sutterfield said he is hoping to see all the golfers step up but is excited to see how far sophomore Kenny You will go.

You was a freshman All-American last year and hopes to help his team make it to the national level.

“I’m looking forward to nationals the most and improving as a player,” said You, a communication major from Salt Lake City. “It’s fun to play good golf. Hopefully this year will be better.”

The team is hoping to do well in conference so it can attend regionals. If the team does well there by getting in the top five, it can move on to nationals in Atlanta.

The team will tee-off at 9 a.m. Feb. 10 at Sunbrook Golf Course.

Women

The Lady Red Storm will play in San Diego at Riverwalk Golf Club in a tournament hosted by Point Loma Nazarene University Feb. 10.

The women finished in fifth place in the Western Washington University-hosted tournament Oct. 7 and 8 in Bellingham, Wash., which is their best finish this golf season.

“We are focusing on our mental game and our confidence going into the season,” head coach Rachel Harmon said.

Dixie State is young with only one senior on the team.

“(We need to) better our team and program as a whole,” said Kellie Busse, a sophomore general education major from Las Vegas. “(We need to) better our game and work together as a group.”

The women are still trying to work together within a team sport.

“They need to kick it up a notch as a group and figure out how to play as a team,” Harmon said. “(We are still) getting them to grasp the concept of team golf, to root for each other, and fill in for one’s weaknesses.”

Both Harmon and Busse said they are looking forward to the conference championship tournament in Hawaii. They look forward to it, not only because of location, but also because it is where the biggest competition is.

The women are focusing on many things to do well in the conference tournament in Hawaii.

“We normally focus on the areas that we feel are the weakest areas as an individual,” Busse said. “On others days, we focus on chipping and putting.”

The 2014 season kicks off Feb. 10 in San Diego.

Wasatch Front bad air quality prompts preventive measures in St. George

The air quality in the Wasatch Front is in crisis, and Utahans across the board should be striving for cleaner, healthier air. 

Harsh winter weather and topographic elements negatively impact the air of the Wasatch Front. While St. George is within compliance with the air standard of the Environmental Protection Agency, the Wasatch Front is constantly struggling to be within compliance. According to UPHC.org, air quality directly effects health and estimates  that the current air pollution levels can shorten lives by two years.

Gov. Gary Herbert created the Clean Air Action Team Oct. 15 to help find ways to improve air quality.

According to the Action Team’s press release published Jan. 30, the action team is pushing toward bringing cleaner cars and fuel to Utah and to eliminate wood burning.

“The Action Team’s recommendation will cover the gamut — everything from regulation, legislation, education, research and transportation,” Herbert said in a press release on Utah.gov. “I want to assure you that no possible solution will be left unturned.” 

William Swensen, St. George air quality manager, is working with Mayor Jon Pike to get a second air monitor in St. George.

Air monitors measure the amount of small particles in the air that enter the lungs and are less than 2.5 microns in diameter, otherwise called particulate matter 2.5.

“We’re using the monitor to regulate Little Valley right now,” Swensen said. “We move the monitor when we see problem areas.”

Air pollution can come from a multitude of sources, according to EPA.gov. Some sources include factories, power plants, smelters, cars, buses, planes, windblown dust and volcanic eruptions. Monitors are placed in areas of St. George that may be experiencing a higher amount of these pollutants.

Swensen said monitoring and measuring the air is the key to maintenance. St. George is currently within compliance with the EPA. To find an hourly-updated air quality measure, visit airquality.utah.gov

Kelcey Polliei, a freshman general education major from Salt Lake City, said she notices a distinct difference between the air in Salt Lake City compared to St. George.

“The air in Salt Lake is definitely bad,” Polliei said. “I went up there last week, and I could feel a difference in my lungs.”

Swensen said the youth and elderly are especially susceptible to the affects of pollution in all regions and encourages people to join the Southern Utah Air Quality Task Force to be proactive in keeping St. George’s air quality up to standard.

The task force is made up of citizens and public officers who are proactive in taking measures toward better air quality. The people involved in the task force try to come up with innovative ways to maintain good air quality and spread the message.

“Become involved,” Swensen said. “Join the task force, join a carpool and avoid idling your car.”

Brock Butler, a junior business major from Carlsbad, Calif., said St. George doesn’t seem to have obvious air quality issues like the Wasatch Front, but people should still be mindful of the impact each of us has on the air.

“If individuals have the drive to do something to help, that’s great,” Butler said. “Lots of grains of sand will eventually do something big.”

 

Students express essential qualities new DSU president must embody

Being socially, entrepreneurially or ideologically sound can take a lifetime, but the next Dixie State University president may have to exhibit all these qualities to appease students. 

The DSU Presidential Search Committee held three public meetings Thursday to gauge staff, student and community member expectations for the committee while searching for a new president. At the student-oriented meeting, committee members described the process of selecting a president before opening up discussion for comments.

David Buhler, Utah commissioner of higher education, said the search committee will take ideas from constituents into account when developing a position announcement, which goes out nationally. He said after that, students and staff can expect quiet for some time until the committee names finalists for the position.

“There is no timeline,” he said. “We will take as long as it takes to find the best person to be president of this great institution and to build upon successes from the past.”

Students then gave opinions in regards to their hopes for DSU’s direction in the future and what they think a new president must embody.

Zac Stucki, a senior business major from St. George, said DSU administration, staff and students face a crossroads and can create dialogue to both go against the status quo and empower students. The ultimate path taken depends on DSU’s future president, Stucki said.

“We actually, at Dixie State University, have a wonderful opportunity to brand ourselves as something unique and distinct, or we have an opportunity to brand ourselves as followers,” he said.

Stucki also said the new president’s ultimate ability to inspire students dictates whether DSU can constantly improve while influencing other universities to provide students with a well-rounded education.

“President Nadauld found a way to [instill] hope in every single student,” he said. “The instant they walked on this campus and saw President Nadauld, they knew in their hearts, ‘You know what, this is going to be hard, but dang it, I can do it.’” 

Like Stucki, other students said a candidate who builds on Nadauld’s impact at DSU should be chosen.

Mariah Stout, a senior elementary education major from Evanston, Wyo., and Dixie State University Student Association education senator, said Nadauld goes out of his way to associate with students. A university president so immersed in campus happenings is rare, she said.

“A really good characteristic of a president of this school is somebody who actually wants to get involved with the students — someone who doesn’t have a problem going and talking to the students on campus and coming to the activities,” Stout said.

As DSU continues its growth and development with a new leader, attendees voiced concerns that dealt with more specific issues.

Alex Lambson, a junior CIT major from St. George and DSUSA CIT senator, said DSU’s role in southern Utah’s economy should bolster and eclipse other sources of revenue like tourism. To meet this demand, whoever replaces Nadauld must peer into the future, he said.

“[We need a president] who looks really, really far into the future — like we’re talking 20, 30 years here because you know times are going to change [drastically],” Lambson said. “If we don’t upgrade our infrastructure and things like the Internet … we’re going to get left behind by the other schools that are constantly upgrading all that.”

As committee members scribed notes, students drew from personal experiences for suggestions.

Kelsey Jetter, a junior English major from St. George, said the university could use a president who values public speaking and debate. Christine Arlotti, a senior English major from Los Angeles, said Nadauld’s successor cannot ignore the challenges to undergraduate females on campus.

“We are a family-oriented community, and so a lot of our female students get married early and have children, but they don’t have any help with child care or services to help them [graduate],” Arlotti said.

The DSU presidential search committee will hold another meeting Feb. 12 at 7:30 p.m. to garner more feedback from constituents. In addition, staff, students and community members can provide input by submitting comments at dixie.edu/presidential search under “Public Input.”

Dixie State radio station 91.3 The Storm good resource for student involvement

The Dixie State University radio station 91.3: The Storm, is a great resource to involve students, but do enough people know about it?

Our View: Student-created media deserves recognition

The Gardner Center may be full of student government promotions and activities, but there is a large portion of student involvement that isn’t represented.

Student-created media is a large part of what drives student life at Dixie State University. Communication is a bona fide major, and students studying it dedicate precious amounts of time and passion to produce material suitable for their biggest demographic: students.

Although the Gardner Center and student-sponsored events play catchy tunes for students passing by, grabbing lunch or taking a study break between classes, why don’t they play our student-created radio station, 91.3 The Storm?

After all, arguably the more popular name for the Gardner Center is the student center. 

Tailgates and other events sponsored by Dixie State University Student Association should also support 91.3. The D-crew car is not for administration, faculty or staff. It’s for students. It only makes sense to have student work proudly broadcast and displayed in all instances.

Playing 91.3 in the student center would be a big step toward giving credit where credit is due. Even the station’s motto reflects its intent: “We are Dixie. Run by students, for students.” 

Passively listening to 91.3 is also a legitimate way for students to gain knowledge about campus events and can prompt more involvement.

Even listeners who aren’t directly tied to the radio are encouraged to request songs and call the station to make suggestions.

Students who’ve gotten used to hearing the top-20 hits in the Gardner Center wouldn’t have to sacrifice much if the building switched its music choice. For those students who can’t get enough of Lorde or The Neighbourhood, fear not. If indie-pop isn’t your thing, 91.3 also throws in the occasional classic rock or reggae song.

The possibility of more sponsors being attracted to donating to the student media outlets would climb once businesses knew how far the radio’s audience spans across campus.

Students from other majors and departments should have the opportunity to display their achievements in the student center as well.

We understand that students belonging to other majors dedicate as much or even more time to their work as communication majors do, and they deserve that same recognition.

The staff responsible for playing music in buildings and events on campus need to be more mindful of the large portion of the student body that isn’t getting the representation it rightfully deserves. Those responsible for playing music where students are should make the switch because 91.3 has the right to be heard.

Utah liquor laws raise confusion

Even if it is 5 o’clock somewhere, you are not getting a drink anywhere in Utah before 10 a.m.

Not anything besides a Utah beer, anyhow, and I have been told by many a drinker that the 3.2 percent alcohol content (by weight, 4 percent by volume) is basically water, although probably more calories.

If you are under 21, it is definitely not water and not for you to keep hydrated on the weekend. Even if laws are a little weird, they are not meant to be broken by bored teenagers.

If you want something stronger, you’ll have to wait until 11:30 a.m. to enjoy the good stuff.

Wait, there’s more. If you decide to grab a drink with a few friends and go to the bar at the hip, new Buffalo Wild Wings, you will not see your alcoholic beverage prepared in front of you.

Is that a problem? Go somewhere that applied for its liquor license before May 12, 2009.

Admittedly, this is just restaurants that serve alcohol, but state liquor store hours are about the same.

It’s no surprise that the the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints is highly influential in Utah government, which partly explains the tighter hold Utah has on alcohol. As far as nationwide age restrictions, the 21-year mark has been a thing since the National Minimum Drinking Age Act of 1984, via President Ronald Reagan. Before then, when the 26th amendment was ratified in 1971 to lower the voting age to 18, many states started doing the same with the legal drinking age.

Not every state, though. “Blood borders” between state lines were created, and teenagers from states with higher age limits would drive to those with lower limits, drink the night away, and proceed to drive back home. Alcohol-related traffic accidents rose, and organizations like Mothers Against Drunk Driving took notice. 

Even with all states having the same age limit now, there are still little differences in details between borders.

Most Utah natives who are over the age of 21 and drink are used to the strange laws put into place here, but the tourists who come through the state are confused. 

I once had the pleasure of being a server for a lovely family from the Netherlands who were on holiday in America. They stopped in for lunch. The husband ordered a tall draft beer, and his wife wanted a mixed drink that contained primarily rum. I told them as kindly as possible that they had to wait another 35 minutes.

Let’s just say the language barrier was not the problem at this point.

The combination of surprise and confusion on their faces told me they understood me perfectly. I immediately explained that our laws are a bit stranger than what they are probably used to considering cultural differences when it comes to alcohol, and that the legal age limit wasn’t the only difference in America.

All states have the same age cutoff nowadays, but college kids under 21 are still drinking and not getting away with it.

For some reason, Dixie State University has a party school reputation, and it’s due to the amount of underage drinking happening in the community.

Next time you decide to binge drink away the night, ask yourself if you would truly like to wake up in the morning feeling like P. Diddy and sacrifice your dental hygiene to a bottle of your favorite Southern whiskey.

Please take my advice. The laws in this state might be a little odd, but the limit is not.

Just because a person is old enough to legally call themselves an adult does not mean every adult is mature enough to be able to hold their alcohol.

Aerie has good intention going ‘unedited’

   Photoshop blesses — curses, rather — the idea of beauty with quite a few uncanny possibilities.

To witness its power, watch this YouTube video by Global Democracy.

In order to combat these shocking manipulations and unrealistic archetypes, body image activists are going corporate — or at least they’re trying.

   My hopes for humanity fluttered when I heard the news that aerieAmerican Eagle’s lingerie brand, announced its 2014 campaign to feature models in their true skin — without Photoshop. However, my optimism fizzled slightly as I scrolled through the ads. 

 

Sure, aerie made a stride but certainly no leap.

 

Advertisers launched “aerie Real” this month with the slogan “The real you is sexy,” according to the Huffington Post article by Ellie KrupnickThe ads feature models in the underwear brand with the words, “The girl in this photo has not been retouched.”

 

The airbrush absence is nonetheless noticeable, with evidence of less-than-perfect skin tones, not-so-tucked tummies, a few tan lines, and even tattoos. But to truly award aerie for bravely challenging our society’s skewed depiction of beauty, its advertisers still have some work to do.

 

Sure, aerie’s looking quite a bit more down-to-earth than competitor Victoria’s Secret, straying away from the porcelain skin effects and skinny-Minnie bombshells with stiletto legs. However, aerie’s making a statement about reality, and its portrayal of the average girl is still off. 

 

Its models are still curvy and slim in all the right places. Cellulite and muffin tops still don’t exist. Careful lighting still gives the glowing skin effect. And, yes, the average butt cheeks are still that round. 

 

It’s lovely what the campaign states: “We think it’s time for a change. We think it’s time to get real and think real. We want every girl to feel good about who they (sic) are and what they look like, inside and out. This means no more retouching our girls and no more supermodels.”

 

I commend aerie for trashing the after-touches and approaching lingerie from a more realistic angle than Victoria’s Secret. However, its advertisers are still carefully posing and selecting the faces and bodies of aerie to stick with society’s often unfair and unobtainable beauty standards. 

 

Stretch marks? Nuh-uh. Flat chests? Nope. Visible pores? Nada. Acne? Hell no.

 

Sadly, aerie is still adding to the noise, just not as blatantly as the rest of the media. Women and girls are still looking at these ads with envy — perhaps even more so now, knowing Photoshop isn’t taking credit for these body images.

 

Aerie’s slogan, “The real you is sexy,” is heartwarming. But when the text is stamped next to an image that is most likely not what the average girl would consider her real self and, yet, what society says is the standard, confidence and self-perceptions are still corroding away.

 

Above all, aerie does deserve some credit, though. Out of all the lingerie stores, aerie would now be my first choice. Its campaign is noble and idealistic, and in a perfect world, other lingerie brands would follow suit.

 

That’s just the problem, though. Our world is no Utopia, and other brands won’t follow suit. Call me a cynic, but as competitive as the advertising world is and as deeply saturated as we are in such a superficial standard of beauty, it’s too risky for brands to stray from the standards and start promoting reality rather than perfection.

 

If we want change, that’s where we, the consumers, come in. It’s up to us to deflect these standards and harden ourselves to envy, unfair expectations and unhealthy goals. It’s up to us to share that knowledge with our daughters, sisters and friends.  

 

After we change our attitudes and demand for realism rather than fantasy, that’s when the advertisers will change. They’re just giving us what we want, after all. 

 

Sexual assault task force, Obama on the right path

I can’t decide what’s more unsettling: the percentage of women sexually assaulted on American college campuses each year or the percentage of women who are sexually assaulted and don’t say a word.

Given the sensitivity of the subject, it is difficult to get accurate estimates of the incidence of sexual assault. The American Medical Association estimates that less than half of assaults are reported to authorities. 

Although it came as a great relief to me when President Barack Obama and his administration announced last week they would be implementing a task force to combat sexual violence on campuses across the country, something still bothers me.

The last article I wrote during the fall semester dealt with a man who had been making inappropriate advances on women on campus.

The undetermined number of women affected by this man who attempted to take out on a date, asked for their number, or made them feel uncomfortable about the skirts they wore was appalling. Even fewer women went straight to the campus police to deal with the situation.

It’s difficult to fathom why a woman wouldn’t be motivated to tell someone if they’ve been sexually violated. If more of the women had spoken up sooner, something could have been done about the campus creeper.

But, when I gave it a second thought, it actually makes a lot of sense that women keep quiet about these incidents. Consider where we live: a religious majority that favors conservatism and brushing things under the rug. Consider our culture where we tend to blame the victim for being attacked  —  a culture where sexual violence occurs but is quickly forgotten.

My stomach turned when I realized most of us have accepted this as a normal part of life. We justify such actions by saying, “Men are pigs; they can’t help themselves. Women get themselves into bad situations. People can’t put the blame on a man’s perverted behavior.”

Therefore, I am in 100 percent support of the actions the Obama administration is taking to combat sexual violence on college campuses. Sexual harassment in college should not be tolerated. Yes, it is up to the women to speak up about incidents. Although, isn’t that pressure to speak up the same kind of pressure we put on women to avoid being targeted?

Rape culture is a real thing. Society too often blames the woman for whatever reason she gets violated and hurt. In contrast, there is no such thing as “women’s rights” anymore. Take away the gender prejudice and the only thing left is “human rights.”

It is a human right to feel safe on a college campus. It is a human right to speak up about any form of unwanted attention and unwanted advances. It is a human right to deny giving someone your number. It is a human right to treat every person with respect, regardless of sex.

While other nations’ governments pretend sexual violence against women isn’t an issue, we have a leader who is tackling it head on. And that means everything to me as a woman and as a college student.

Men, your actions are contagious. Women, your words are contagious. The president can only do so much to keep you safe on a college campus. But when you leave the campus, don’t forget the power you have to speak up about your rights as a human being.

Obama put it best when he said: “…Sexual violence is more than just a crime against individuals. And that’s why we’re here today  —  because we have the power to do something about it as a government, as a nation. We have the capacity to stop sexual assault, support those who have survived it, and bring perpetrators to justice.”

Cover to Cover: “Nick and Norah’s Infinite Playlist” touching, genuine collaboration

Think of your life as a soundtrack.

You have a song that turns up when you know you’re about to discover something big. A different song plays when your world seems to crumble down, and another song emerges out of nowhere along with the butterflies that suddenly ram against the walls of your tummy.

“Nick and Norah’s Infinite Playlist” by David Levithan and Rachel Cohn reads exactly like that, except the soundtrack is shared by two people who are thrown into each other’s lives with an unexpected springboard of a rash kiss. Told in alternating “he said, she said” narration, a story of love, music and friendship unfolds in one, long roller coaster of a first date in Manhattan.

I was enticed to read “Nick and Norah’s Infinite Playlist” when I found out the idea was born one afternoon while two of my favorite authors were out for lunch. Levithan and Cohn shared a passion for teen literature and music for many years. Cohn told Levithan she’d been stirring a story idea around her head where two youngsters would meet at a music club in Manhattan. Without more said on the matter, Levithan agreed to help Cohn begin her novel.

Months went by, and Cohn had almost forgotten about the conversation when she received an email from Levithan with the words “Chapter One” in the subject line. From there, the two emailed chapters back and forth, picking up each chapter where the other left off. Nick and Norah’s story slowly came to life. 

Cohn and Levithan have a magical talent that I previously thought was only the province of John Green: they get teenagerdom right. They write the characters as perfect portrayals of the teenagers they really are.

I’ve encountered a lot of books where teens sound how the authors wish them to sound. One classic example — committed by most female young adult authors (I’m looking at you, Stephanie Meyers) — is they make teenage boys sound like their ideal 30-year-old men. They’re not fleshing out characters when they do that; they’re just making use of puppets molded by their dreamy notions and frustrations.

That’s not the case with Nick or Norah.

Norah meets Nick at a club in downtown Manhattan. Nick is stuck in his usual, emo-depressed state due to his recent break-up with Tris, who had inspired him to write beautiful songs. Norah comes from a bad relationship with a very politically-oriented boyfriend, Tal, whom she’d dumped about five times in the last three years. Both stories offer an element of truth that any reader can relate to.

This is why I think the Cohn-Levithan duo is such an exquisite collaboration. They are so in-sync with each other that you can only wonder how they can flawlessly make the story go on, yet you  know who’s penned what because of their distinctive styles. Admittedly, I’ve only read one other book by Cohn, but Levithan’s writing had the undertones of his “Will Grayson, Will Grayson” and “Boy Meets Boy” that are recognizable by his fans.

I’m not easily impressed by most love stories, but this novel thawed my frosty literary heart from the first page. Some parts of the story were actually painful to read — not because they were bad or wrong, but because they were so right that they were touching raw, emotional spots leftover from teenager-hood that I didn’t realize I still had. Like when Norah decided to jump the turnstile to catch the train with Nick, it’s those same leaps of faith that reminded me of the leaps I took as a teen that got me to where I am now.

Even though readers may personally feel like they’re nothing like Nick and Norah, the emotions and sensations they go through are so familiar that I’d wager they’re universal.

If this novel is an album, the listeners will encounter a lot of songs about strippers in nun costumes, taxi driver wisdom, five-minute relationships and heart-versus-mind debates.

One message Levithan and Cohn clearly voice is that we tend to anchor memories to music without even trying. It’s rare when we’re conscious enough to pay attention. But when we do, each moment is a note, each event is a song, and each connection with another person is a soundtrack. If we’re lucky, something or someone forces us to tune in and know when it’s time to go along with where the music is taking us.

Students, faculty recount dreadful dates, offer advice

A forced, sloppy kiss or a pawned-off dinner tab can leave a person swearing off dating for life.

Dating is simply a part of life for young adults, and unfortunately, dreadful dates seem inevitable. Like Pat Benatar said, “Love is a battlefield.” Everyone’s fighting to score a winning date with a trophy girl or guy, but put on your armor — it may require conquering some bad dates in order to discover a gleaming one.

Jonathan Morrell, Director of Student Support Services, is all too familiar with bad dates, and looking back, he said he wishes he would have handled his poor date situations differently.

“It was a Sadie Hawkins dance,” Morrell said. “It was a mercy date. I went because she asked, and it ended up being a waste of her money and my time.”

Morrell said in order to have a successful date, both people involved have to want to be there, and in hindsight, he should have been honest with the girl who asked him out and not attended the dance.

“A lot of people go on mercy dates in this culture,” Morrell said. “Just rip the bandage off. Truth is important in dating.”

Jay Phillips, a freshman CIT major from St. George, has strong opinions about what could turn a date sour.

“If a girl kept talking and distracting me from a movie, it would be so annoying,” Phillips said. “I once went on a really bad date when I didn’t have a car. After, I walked the girl home and my parents had to pick me up.”

There are many aspects that can transform a pleasant date into a crummy one, and part of a successful date is knowing when to take a hint, said Cadie Erickson, a freshman general education major from Hurricane.

“On this one date, we went on a bike ride,” Erickson said. “After the bike ride, he wanted to hang out, and I’m too nice to say no, so he hung around at my apartment literally all day. I told him I didn’t feel good, and he still wouldn’t leave. He hung around for hours.”

Luckily, Erickson now has a strategy for future dreaded dates.

“My backup plan is to tell them I’m epileptic and say I’m slipping into a seizure,” Erickson said. 

While dealing with another person in an awkwardly romantic situation can be uncomfortable, it’s important to take chances and have hope, Erickson said.

“Go on a date with an open mind,” Erickson said. “Hope for the best. Hope the person isn’t creepy.”

Morrell said it’s also important to not be selfish when dating, and respect the other person by making him or her a priority.

“Leave the electronic devices at home,” Morrell said. “Focus on the person you’re with.”