Everyday in the Sun News class we start with a question of the day. A quick, fun way to get to know the people in the classroom, and the other day the question was what is the biggest red flag for someone to have? I am still new to the dating scene, so I don’t know much about these topics, but I am learning slowly as I experience more.
Red flags are signs you might not want to be in a relationship with a person, whether they are not your type, if they show signs of manipulation or even abuse.
Not having anything in common
This is probably the biggest red flag for me. Having things in common allows two people to create a bond over something they both like. A big part of being in a relationship for me is to be able to share a passion.
If they try to change who you are
Another red flag is when your partner tries to change who you are. Whether it’s the way you dress or even the way you act, if they try to change you, that’s a red flag. A relationship is all about appreciating the differences between two people and finding beauty in that. Both people in a relationship should feel comfortable to be themselves without fear of judgment.
Jealousy
I couldn’t be in a relationship if my partner got overly jealous if I spent time with other people. I would understand getting jealous if I spent too much time away because I would get jealous too. It just comes down to having a healthy balance of time together and spending time with friends and family.
Someone who can’t take a joke
I am a very sarcastic person, and I make a lot of jokes. I tease and I realize I can cross a line every once in a while. I just need them to know I don’t mean any harm. I couldn’t be with someone who doesn’t like my jokes.
I consider myself a funny guy, and I couldn’t handle being with someone who doesn’t think I’m funny. If I was dating a person who didn’t laugh at my jokes, I would lose my mind.
Over-complimenting
My final red flag is over-complimenting. A partner can do this either because they are insecure and they worship you so they feel better about themselves, or because they hold people to incredibly high standards. This can also be described as love bombing—when someone over-compliments someone to manipulate them. I don’t love bomb, but I make sure the people around me feel special.
Looking for these signs can keep you from getting hurt or wasting time with someone who doesn’t match your needs.
