Valentine’s Day has always been rough for the single folk out there. It’s a day that exists purely to celebrate romance, but not everyone has someone special to share that with. It can be a lonely day for those who don’t.
As Valentine’s Day creeps closer, it becomes easier to compare yourself to those who are currently in a relationship. You might think about how lucky they are to have something so special, while you sit alone on the couch.
To some people, Valentine’s is a reminder of what they don’t have. This is why being single on Valentine’s Day can feel like a slap in the face. There is the loneliness that comes with being single, especially during February. You watch from the sidelines as people dance and feed each other food, hoping that you too can have that special feeling one day.
To me, the longing is the worst part. The deep desire in your soul to have these romantic experiences, but know that you aren’t even close.
As a member of the single folk, I can say being single can be complicated. There are a lot of factors that influence the relationship status.
Maybe a person is too shy to walk up and introduce themselves. Maybe they are afraid of being rejected. Maybe they overthink the whole situation and talk themselves out of it.
How many times have we seen someone we thought was attractive and immediately tried to logic our way through it through hypothetical situations, only to decide that they were out of our league and it wasn’t worth the embarrassment to walk up and talk to them? All of these are reasons I personally struggle with Valentine’s Day, and I’m sure I am not the only one.
Valentine’s Day is one of romance and passion and that is where the focus should stay. Yes, the single folk deserve some recognition, but this is a holiday for couples to share their gratitude for each other. A relationship staying strong is something to celebrate, even if it reminds me that I have never experienced that sort of thing.
Despite never having a Valentine, I appreciate the various traditions that occur each year. I love the idea of giving someone a bouquet of flowers or a cute stuffed animal, and I love the romantic gestures to display their affection. And who doesn’t like chocolate?
Valentine’s Day is rough for the singles out there. The magic of the holiday only applies to those who have love, but don’t let it get you down. Instead, challenge yourself to stop overthinking things. Stop thinking in hypotheticals and walk up to that person you have had an eye on for a while now and introduce yourself.
The worst that can happen is they say they don’t feel the same way, but after facing the sting of rejection you can be proud that you stopped thinking and put yourself out there. Valentine’s is the time of year to embrace the romance in the air. It’s the perfect time to celebrate existing relationships or maybe take a chance and put yourself out there.
